What do humans and frogs have in common? Why is it that in a fairytale, it’s always the frog that gets transformed into a human and vice versa? I haven’t found the answer to that yet and maybe I never will. But that’s okay, I never liked frogs anyway! If fairy tales were real and my prince was to be trapped in the form of a frog, I could never kiss it. It’d be saying sayōnara…adios and gladly choose to be single for the rest of my life! Well, thank heavens fairytales aren’t real so even though I’m single, I don’t have those slimy frogs to blame.
Speaking about frogs, I recently saw an article that shared the anecdote of the boiling frog. It goes like this, “If you place a frog in boiling water it will jump out, but if you place it in water of normal temperature and gradually increase the temperature of the water it will let itself be boiled to death. Why? Because it will continue to adjust it’s own body temperature to match the rising temperature of boiling water until it’s too late to escape. The fact of the matter is, it won’t realize the danger because it came on gradually. The frog may have been boiled to death but what ultimately killed the frog was it’s inability to decide when enough was enough.
Now, there is much debate about whether or not this was a true experiment, however, I’m not too concerned with that. The message is real regardless, and it happens every day in many areas of our lives. Take weight struggles as an example. Some persons pack on the pounds slowly over the years not realizing the damage they’re doing to their heart or the strain on their knees? The truth is, it’s very easy for gradual weight increases to go unnoticed. At times it gets to the point where they end up being obese or with type 2 diabetes. It’s funny… I use to have a co-worker who was always on a diet. She’s always trying to lose a whopping 2lbs…lol. I use to be like “2Lbs, really?” But she was on to something. She realized that that 2lbs could become 4, then 8, then 16 and before you know it, she would have gained 20lbs. She stopped it in its tracks.
Maybe it’s that bad relationship you can’t see. Yes, this can be applied to that as well. Maybe your spouse is verbally abusive. Maybe you’re hit but only when you “say the wrong thing.” There will come a point when you won’t be able to escape…the time is now. Two quotes to live by especially in relationships are “never accept less that you deserve, or you’ll end up getting even less than you originally settled for” and “when someone shows you who they are, believe them.” These quotes can help to steer you away from potentially bad relationships. Sometimes we underestimate our own ability to know what’s good for us. We ignore the signs because we think it’s better to get some of what we want in a spouse than to be single. Not true!
Sometimes it’s okay to compromise, but we have to be sure what it is that we are willing to compromise on. Compromise of the wrong kind often opens the door for much more. And before you know it, you’re unsure of how you ended up in this mess and worse, how to get out. Don’t get boiled in comfort!
Love and Light:)