What do humans and frogs have in common? Why is it that in a fairytale, it’s always the frog that gets transformed into a human and vice versa? I haven’t found the answer to that yet and maybe I never will. But that’s okay, I never liked frogs anyway! If fairy tales were real and my prince was to be trapped in the form of a frog, I could never kiss it. It’d be saying sayōnara…adios and gladly choose to be single for the rest of my life! Well, thank heavens fairytales aren’t real so even though I’m single, I don’t have those slimy frogs to blame.

Speaking about frogs, I recently saw an article that shared the anecdote of the boiling frog. It goes like this, “If you place a frog in boiling water it will jump out, but if you place it in water of normal temperature and gradually increase the temperature of the water it will let itself be boiled to death. Why? Because it will continue to adjust it’s own body temperature to match the rising temperature of boiling water until it’s too late to escape. The fact of the matter is, it won’t realize the danger because it came on gradually. The frog may have been boiled to death but what ultimately killed the frog was it’s inability to decide when enough was enough. frog-in-a-pot

Now, there is much debate about whether or not this was a true experiment, however, I’m not too concerned with that. The message is real regardless, and it happens every day in many areas of our lives. Take weight struggles as an example. Some persons pack on the pounds slowly over the years not realizing the damage they’re doing to their heart or the strain on their knees? The truth is, it’s very easy for gradual weight increases to go unnoticed. At times it gets to the point where they end up being obese or with type 2 diabetes. It’s funny… I  use to have a co-worker who was always on a diet. She’s always trying to lose a whopping 2lbs…lol. I use to be like “2Lbs, really?” But she was on to something. She realized that that 2lbs could become 4, then 8, then 16 and before you know it, she would have gained 20lbs. She stopped it in its tracks.

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Maybe it’s that bad relationship you can’t see. Yes, this can be applied to that as well. Maybe your spouse is verbally abusive. Maybe you’re hit but only when you “say the wrong thing.” There will come a point when you won’t be able to escape…the time is now. Two quotes to live by especially in relationships are “never accept less that you deserve, or you’ll end up getting even less than you originally settled for” and “when someone shows you who they are, believe them.” These quotes can help to steer you away from potentially bad relationships. Sometimes we underestimate our own ability to know what’s good for us. We ignore the signs because we think it’s better to get some of what we want in a spouse than to be single. Not true!

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Sometimes it’s okay to compromise, but we have to be sure what it is that we are willing to compromise on. Compromise of the wrong kind often opens the door for much more. And before you know it, you’re unsure of how you ended up in this mess and worse, how to get out. Don’t get boiled in comfort!

Love and Light:)

Tamara.

11 thoughts on “Don’t Get Boiled in Comfort!

  1. interesting concept about the frog. I do keep an eye on my weight and when it creeps up 2 lbs, I nip the weight gain in the bud by eating better and exercising more so it does not get out of control. Never thought of applying that concept to other areas of my life

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    1. That’s good Lorie. It’s so easy for small changes to go unnoticed. I’m glad you’re able to do that with your weight. I do too. Like right now, I let the Holiday get the better of me so now I’m up 6lbs:(. I’m using first 3 weeks of 2017 to get it off though.

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  2. This is something I struggle with. Knowing when to let go or when to keep holding on. I don’t think I am the only one struggling with it though, it’s one of the perks of being human. (If only there were a set of formula somewhere that we can apply in every situation to know exactly when it’s time to say , ‘bye felicia. ‘

    Anyway, one gauge I use is when it hurts too much. When it becomes choking. Say you deep your head under water, you can hold your breath forever, you will have to come up for air right? This might not be a perfect solution, but who says there is one.

    Anyway, I wrote something similar a while back, you should check it out. Maybe you will find some answers there or maybe help me find the answers I seek.

    https://4unansweredprayers.wordpress.com/2016/06/23/how-long-should-patience-last/

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