Dreams can sometimes feel so real and when they do; it can be quite terrifying. A few nights ago I was having a really bad dream – a nightmare you could say. I don’t remember exactly what was happening in the dream but what I do recall is being aware that I was dreaming. That alone was very strange because I’ve never had a dream where I knew it wasn’t real while it was happening. My dreams have always felt intensely real whether it was pleasant or it was a nightmare.


I wanted to learn more about what had happened and so I took to the internet to figure things out. I discovered that I had a Lucid dream. The more I read about the subject, the more intrigued I became. The first thing I thought was “man, now I can control my dreams.” Apparently, this is the mentality of beginners. Experienced lucid dreamers want rich experiences; experiences that would not have been possible in their normal waking life. They seek healing, adventure, self-discovery, creativity, anything that can maximize our truest potential. The most exciting thing is, we can train ourselves to become lucid dreamers.


Wouldn’t it be a dream come true if we could do anything we wanted while we slept and awake as a better version of ourselves? Most of our fears are self-imposed and merely psychological anyway. What potential could we unlock if we resolved that which held us back in our waking life using this technique?  Is this the answer?.

My dreams have always had themes and I would research their meaning if they occurred more than twice in the same month. One of the most commons dreams I’ve had is losing my teeth – all of them (yikes!). I later learned that this was a common dream for many people and can be a sign that a major change that will happen in your life. The last time I had it was before I migrated to this country, so it’s been awhile.

The reason for writing this piece was because of what happened at the end of this dream.  I remember thinking to myself “why don’t you just wake up?” The fact was, it wasn’t a pleasant dream. I was fully aware that I was dreaming and I was fully aware that I could end it, so why didn’t I? Why didn’t I just wake up? And with that thought, I woke up. And then it hit me, immediately! Why don’t I apply this to my life? Why don’t we all apply this to our waking lives?  We don’t have to feel trapped in our circumstances. At any point, we can decide to change, we can decide to wake up. I understand there may be some aspects of our lives that we have no control over, for those, I say repeat the serenity prayer. For everything else…wake up! Wake up and discover your passion. Wake up and speak your truth. Wake up and chase your goals. Wake up and live!

I know it’s easier said than done. Change is a whole process of self-assessment and retraining. But, believe me, once we admit that we are solely responsible for our destination, we will have a new outlook on life. Once we stop the blame game and look to the person in the mirror, we are on our way. We are the pilots, the CEOs, the Pastors, the Teachers, the Managers of our lives.  Acknowledgment of this fact is crucial to our success. We don’t need to be puppets to anyone’s ideas of who we should be, what we should do or what we should want.

I think that dream was a sign for me. It was the universe’s way of letting me know that I have a choice in the direction my life is going. I can either sleep through it, or I can wake up and direct it.

Unless we are Lucid dreamers, I can’t imagine the benefit of being in a dream state. Most of us have little control over the things we dream about. What we do have control over, however, is our waking life. Think about it like this – if you are just going through the motions of life – passive living, then you are sleeping. Passive income is a good thing but passive living isn’t. We need to actively seek out our destiny. We need to actively be involved in our future. We need to actively seek change. We need to actively seek out better ways of providing for ourselves and our families. We need to wake up and live.

Love and Light,


8 thoughts on “If You Don’t Like The Dream…Wake Up!

  1. Interesting post. It reminds me of guided meditation and self hypnosis both of which I’ve studied and practiced. But I know lucid dreaming is different even though there is some overlap between these things. I love the feeling of drifting off to sleep and being aware I’m drifting. You’ve inspired me to explore setting an intention for a pleasant lucid dream. I like how you expanded the experience to apply to changing our lives and the use of the Serenity Prayer for the parts we cannot change.


    1. Thanks for taking the time to read my post JoAnna.

      I’ve had several episodes of sleep paralysis, which I’ve now learned can be used as a technique in Lucid dreaming:) I’ve become so fascinated by it that I’m also trying to have the experience again. This time, a more pleasant one:) You should do try to initiate one too, I would love to know how it goes.


  2. Thanks Tamara, I enjoyed reading this because I lucid dream a lot. Had one today even.
    Most times, when I experience lucid dreams and it’s pleasant , I go back to sleep and continued from were I stopped. Which is kinda awkward. But like you said, if we apply it to life often, we can begin to do more.
    Wake up and take responsibility for our actions. It’s always easier said than done, but having the consciousness to ‘wake up’ is a good start.

    Thanks for the reminder that not everything in life is out of our control, we can adjust the sail even though we are helpless before the wind.

    PS: Tamara means God in my langauge. So that’s a beautiful name you’ve got.

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    1. Thank you Xceptional43. Your comment made my day this morning:) Noticed I said “your” not “you’re” haha. I read your latest blog.

      My name has power huh? I guess I have to live up to that.


  3. Hi Tamara,

    This is some good stuff.
    I remember having a dream and something bad was about to happen to me and I just stood there because I knew it was just a dream…lol
    Well I’m just now waking up and living my life to the fullest and I’m 50!
    There is nothing like planning something for yourself and then doing it.
    Thanks and great post!


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